Your Man

Before I start telling you about how man act, I want to know how much you know about them and how much you only think you know. I'm not gonna blindly telling you this. I've quite a number of male friends and I knew these from them. 

• Sex - SEX is NOT all men ever think about! I definitely makes the short list but it's not their only focus and in fact does not remain at the top of the list for very long. 
• Commitment - I've heard countless ladies complain about guys who aren't up for a relationship, but believe me, a time comes in most men's lives when the idea of chasing women or being chased by women , loses it's sex appeal,ceases their ego and fails to motivate them as a core priority in life but for sure, they do NOT want to be lifelong players and commitment.
• Grow up to be just like their father - They do frequently grow up with values and beliefs that reflect the father figure in their life. Ever heard of 'the apple does not fall far from the tree'? If you want to understand a guy, take a closer look at his father. If his father was loving and caring, bingo! - chances are he'll be as well. All people tend to be affected by what they see and live rather than by what they don't see and live. Of course, there're exceptions: sons can consciously choose a path or course in life different from his fathers. Sometimes, it's rebellion that motivates the changes and sometimes it's pain from having to live which is considered to be negative. 
• Compare every woman to their mother - By time you meet a guy, he's already had at least a 20-year-relationship with his mother.No matter how long his other relationship have been,the one he has with his mother is the strongest! So make no mistake! His mother was a powerful influence and she can and will have an impact on how he relates to you. 
• Jerks - There're men who are insensitive jerks just as there're woman who are. Men don't care any less; they just respond less and care less. different isn't bad, it's just different. Let's take a look at this conversation :

Rachel : I love your new blouse! It's the cutest thing I've ever seen!

Nicole : Do you really think so? I've had a hard time choosing this. don't you think it's too short?

Rachel : No! It's perfect for you!  I would love to buy it too but I'm fat so I'm stuck in this clothes.

Nicole : Are you serious? You've a great body!

Rachel : Are you kidding? I think I should cut some weight. But I'm still glad I'm healthy.

Meanwhile...

Alex : New shirt?

Adam : Yep

There's a key difference between men and women. How a man differs from woman?

1. Women use an average of 7000 words per day; men use 2000 words per day.
2. If someone forgets to invite a guy to a party, he or she can sill be his friends. The same isn't necessarily true for women. 
3. His phone conversation last for 15 seconds while it might ended up for 2-3 hours for women.
4. When watching TV, he doesn't have to stop on every show that has someone crying while women used almost a box of tissues just for the crying scene.
5. Men would be grateful for just 4 pairs of shoes compared to women who feels the need to buy a new shoes even after buying the latest one.
6. If he doesn't contact his friends for a week, his friends won't tell them that he's changed. 

However, you can't take his personality personally - he was this way long before you met him. He's not behaving in these ways to make your life difficult. He's acting like these because that's how he's been acting for years. Like I said, he can change some things but he's also his own person, separate from you. 

The bottom line is, you doesn't have to like his nature or that you don't seek to change it within reason but at least understanding it can keep you from getting your feelings hurt needlessly. 

It isn't always about you. That can be a good or a bad thing, but either way, the facts remains - his behavior is not always about you. I hope you can calm down and figure out what to do so you get more of what you want and less of what you don't.

*P/s: I'm going to share more about this but I'm afraid I've to share it in the next entry. I've stuff to do and I'll be back. Stay tuned!

Love,

W.