Warning Sign!

If after taking a hard look on your guy, you find that he doesn't measure up, what then? It's time to make a break. Be honest with yourself. If it's not right, you're just burning daylight. 

If you see any of the following signs, don't go a step further. Bells should be going off, because these are deal breakers. These includes:

1. He's an alcoholic or drug addict
2. He's abusive - physically and verbally
3. He's got a bad temper
4. He's got no religion
5. He's overly jealous
6. He's controlling
7. He has a gambling addiction
8. He say he "can't live without you" after the second meeting
9. He's someone husband
10. He isn't there for you in times of crisis
11. He's not financially stable and depends on his parents' money
12. He's a liar and a player
13. He'sirresponsible

Your goal is to create a relationship that's good for both of you, where both of you feel safe,both of you feel the needs are met and both of you feel that things you've compromised on are worth it because of what you get in return.

Here are some other important, action-oriented ways to strengthen the bond between you and your partner.

• Work on your relationship regularly - I think it's funny that people spend some time and money regularly fixing their cars, decorating their homes and hitting the gym to stay in shape but when it comes to relationship they think it can coast along on cruise control. You can't focus on your relationship only when things are bad! 
• Don't take each other for granted - There's a fine line between getting comfortable and getting careless. Crossing it can send a signal to your partner that you're taking it for granted and that you don't really care anymore. 
• Show each other you care - It's a little stuff but it's little stuff that says a lot. Showing your love means thinking about small things you can do to improve each other's lives. 
• Quit comparing - Avoid comparing what you and your partner have with what your friend has with significant other. 

Another thing can can chip away a perfectly good relationship is believing all these myths about what a 'happy' couple does or is. You believe these myths and when your relationship doesn't measure up, you're convinced something wrong.

• Myth - Happy couples can see things through each other's eyes.
• Reality - You can't possibly see things the same way as your partner because you're just not the same people. You're a woman and he's a man and you're not wired the same.

• Myth - Happy couple always have a lots of romance.
• Reality - Romantic love is emotionally driven. It's novelty, excitement and newness, but it doesn't sustain a relationship. 

• Myth - Happy couple need to have common interest.
• Reality - It's a bonus if you do but there's nothing wrong with your relationship if you don't have the same interest. If you and your partner are forcing each other to engage in common activities but the results are stress and conflict then don't do it!

• Myth - Happy couples don't fight
• Reality - Conflict is a fact of life in most relationship and arguing - as long as it'snot destructive, in't a negative thing. Arguing can actually help each other knowing that you can express feelings without being abandoned or humiliated. 

Nobody completes anybody. We complete ourselves. You don't have to be somebody else to be whole. When you discover all that, boyfriend or no boyfriend, you've changed and you life has changed!

People say "relationships are made in heaven." That may be true on some level but relationships are managed on earth.And you live on earth, you create your own relationships. The conclusion is that loving smart means believing in yourself, your worth and your value. 

I guess that's the end of our 'love' topic. Whoever reading this, I hope you already get what you want. It may not work as fast as you want but hey, relax and let the time deal it. Sooner or later, your Mr. Right will come and ring your bell. You just have to be ready!

*P/s: Stay tuned peeps! I'll be posting a new entry soon. Take care!

Love,

W.