Single?

I often get asked by my friends why they're still single when all their friends, cousins and everyone around them seems to be married, getting engaged or at least involved in committed relationship. I've no idea why they asked me since I'm like...I've nobody! I mean not literally nobody, it's just that I'm single and I've no interest in guys right now. The only guys I looked forward to is Kpop Idols. Hahahah!

I've the answer! The answer is in you! I'm not saying that you're not pretty or you're some kind of nerds or everyone hates you. No! I'm saying that only you has the answer. 

This is not the time to blame your ex, bad timing or general incompatibilities. The bucks stop here. With you.

Now, don't get the wrong idea! I'm not saying that you're to be blame or you're the only one with responsibility. Your ex is your past and I don't want you to make yourself crazy thinking over what he has done to you in your past relationship. It's over when it's over! No more turning back!

I don't want you to spend your entire life talking about the old you, the you who used to check her messages every 10 seconds hoping some guy had called or the you who sat home every day thinking "My life sucks. Nobody loves me!" Oh please! That girl is yesterday's news. She is over! Moved on and be happy!

If you can look at these statements and nod your head in agreement, it's official: You now have the kind of confidence that propels relationship forward.

• I've a lot of love to give
• I'm charming and entertaining
• I'm great company
• I've a great friends, a great family and people who love me
• I love being myself
• There's so much more to me than my looks
• I'm a beautiful human being
• Is he good enough for me?
• If I'm not happy, I'll leave
• My happiness depends on me

There's something I haven't mentioned. I've known some really bad guys in my time. That's right, what I'm telling you is you're not crazy - a lot of your suspicions are often true. Many guys do have a dark side and since you're single and ready to mingle, watch out for these 5 types :

1. The hit 'er-and-quit' er - These guys are the ones who just don't like women, yet they use women as often as possible! They still want sex but their need for intimacy and female companionship ends at the bed. They'll say anything good to get a girl naked and have no conscience about what lies they tell to get there. Watch out!
2. The kiss-and-teller - These are the braggarts who are more interested of having a story to tell. These guys can't wait to parade you around and then get away from you, so they can tell you their stories. They won;t try to get to know you at all. They just want to show you off and make people think that they got something - even if they don't!
3. The smother brother - These guys are overwhelmed by a need for control! If you let them, they'll do what they can to take over your entire life! At first, it may feel good that they're really head over heels in love with you and so interested in you but be patient because you may soon find out that their only interest is not caring in you but controlling you. Don't confuse smothering with love!
4. The pretender - These guys playing script and they doesn't care who's playing opposite them! Once these guys feel that he's got you, it's game over! Now he's got to figure out what to do with you and that's either too scary or too boring a proposition for him to deal with, so he moves on to the next victim. Be careful, you'll never know his intention! He's just a pretender!
5. The mama's boy - Unemployed and seeking women who're affluent to take care of them emotionally and financially, mama's boy are looking to be, you guessed it, mommied! Instead of viewing relationship as their chance to grow into adulthood, they look at women as mothers who will feed, clothe and clean up for them. Watch out for guys who never seem to have money, expecting you to pay for his bills and asking for loans! 

These guys are out there so beware! I don't want you to be those kind of desperados and just grab any men you met! 

*P/s: I've a lot to share and I'll be back soon so stay tuned! 

Love,

W.