Married at a Young Age?

Some of my friends are getting married this year and few of them are already married. Just like me, they're all 20 years old. My question is...how did they make such a big decision by getting married at a young age?

I never imagined I'd be the type of girl to get married young. I was judgmental and presumptuous about college girls wearing engagement rings or people making life-long commitments before their 25th birthdays. I was like “Pffttt” with a somewhat disgusted look, probably rolling my eyes in disbelief. 

Some said marriage is challenging and getting married at a young age sets us up for many obstacles but there are also little-known perks to entering marriage and adulthood roughly at the same time. They said it’s not all bad decisions and dead ends. Well I don't think so! 

Getting married is a wonderful thing, being married is special but simply wanting to is not good enough!

FAMILY PRESSURE?

The main reasons to get married is pressure from your family. What parents tend to forget is that times have changed significantly and it's simply not a foregone conclusion that you have to marry someone your parents favor of. The decision to get married should be one made by you and your partner alone, no other voices should be heard!

SETTLING?

Do not agree to marry somebody just because you may feel like you are too old or too tired to feel like you deserve better. Be matured and think wisely. I'm sure you don't want to regret it later.

FEAR OF LONELINESS?

For some people, the most important thing in life is to make sure that you're never alone but accepting somebody's proposal simply for the fact that it may solve your problem with regards to permanent companionship is not fair for you and your partner! 

TRYING TO PATCH UP A RELATIONSHIP?

 It's not like you are pressing the reset button and starting a whole new life together. Sooner or later, all of your issues will just be brought into your marriage and tensions will be higher than ever because either one of you could start feeling trapped on top of everything else.

Before you commit to entering into the final chapter of your love life, please consider the real reasons for your decision. Are you madly in love or are you just settling down? Think wisely because marriage is not a game. It's a final decision you make and you're not going to regret it. 

*P/s: I'm on my final exam mode. I've 2 papers left. I need to do some revisions.  I'll be back. Stay tuned!

Love,

W.