We all have best friends. A friend with whom we share all our secrets. A friend who is special to us than all other friends. If for a boy there is a girl who is his special friend and with whom he shares all his secrets then sooner or later they falls for one another. This is because they spend so much of time together that they feel how awesome it would be to spend the entire life together. They can't live without each other but at the same time they're nothing more than that. The thought of being in a relationship has never even touched their mind.
Is that true?
Sometimes in close friendships, caring gets confused for feelings.
When you're best friends with someone of the opposite gender, any action you take to show your friend how much you care can be passed off as a secret sign of showing affection on a deeper level. Whether you're a girl or a guy, either one of you will misunderstood this actions and you'll ended up confusing whether your best friends is really your best friends.
You always have to avoid the “Are you dating?” question.
You want to go out together and people will assume you’re a couple. Doing things alone, just the two of you, isn’t weird for either of you, but to the public, you appear to be an exclusive couple. Answering that question sometimes is followed with a “Why not?” which leads to further explanation of your confusing friendship. You'll start asking yourself why you're in this friendship but not in a relationship.
You never really know what they’re feeling. Like...real feelings!
Is he secretly in love with you, despite denying the possibility? Are you secretly in love with him, even though you think you only see him as best friends? Should you be secretly in love with him? Would it make everything fall into place—or would it destroy everything? There's a lot to consider and you'll never know what's going to happen to both of you or maybe...you're afraid to know the answer.
You find yourself getting jealous.
If your friend starts dating someone, you might feel as though things are falling apart. You’re not necessarily jealous because you want to date him; you’re just jealous because you’re no longer the only girl in his life. This is ridiculous! I know that you're aware that you're not the only girl in his life but I'm sure that you want to be the only girl. Unfortunately, you've to face the fact that you're not and you're only his best friends.
Both of your parents want you to get married.
They even joke about it in front of you. It’s awkward right? I'm so lucky that my parents don't even know who's my best friends are and I'm pretty sure they don't care. I'm just afraid that my mom would ask me to marry my best friends cause I once told her I wanted to marry my best friends. I hope she already forget that cause marrying your best friends is like.....not going to happen.
I had a male friend whom has a girl best friends and he told me this...
"My best friend is a girl and I adore her even though we are kind of the opposite of one another.
Ever since then we have been distancing since she moved 100 km far away from me and I find myself thinking about her all the time. Like, what is she doing? Yeah she's probably in class, but class doesn't last forever and most of it is cancelled. She's never home anymore and is always 'out.' She told me she doesn't have a boyfriend and doesn't want one but she spends a lot of her time texting with this guy and they even went out together a couple of times. Now I'm feeling jealous!
We used to text each others, but now she's texting with this other guy all the time. I'm feeling like I just got replaced or being forgotten. If she was a guy I wouldn't give a damn, so long as he keeps his word, but since it's a girl it actually does hit me a bit harder. We still talk like crazy throughout the day, but when the day is over I feel lonely as hell and I can't really explain why!
I feel like I've fallen for her but now she's fallen for this other guy and I can't do a single thing about it because it's her life and her choice."
You never really realize how much you care until they tell you about someone else being "the one" for them. You saw them fall in and out of love, but hearing them planning to settle with someone else for good? I know it hurts!
A girl and a guy can be a best friends but the possibility of one of them fall to one another is high. I'm not saying that having a best friends of opposite gender is bad. What I'm trying to say is you cannot do anything about where your heart go. You've to go with the flow. After all, love is the greatest gift God has gave you and if there's sparks between both of you, you've to cherish it.
That's all for now. I'll be back. Stay tuned!
Love,
W.
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